How Family Mediation Can Help You During Your Divorce Proceedings
A divorce can be emotionally devastating for a family. During this time, figuring out who gets what in the settlement is the last thing on anyone’s mind. However, delaying those critical decisions can lead to more heartache and fights in the future. This is where a family mediator can prove invaluable.
What Is Family Mediation?
Family mediation is a process where spouses are aided by a neutral third party called a family mediator. The mediator’s job is to listen to both parties and help them overcome differences long enough to identify and solve disputable issues. This includes the family’s needs, goals and the options that are available to them to resolve conflicts.
The aim of mediation is to engage in discussions in a setting where the couple can set their differences aside and move toward certain outcomes. In other words, mediation helps divorcing partners finalize agreements that may otherwise result in costly court proceedings.
When and Why Should You Get a Family Mediator?
A family mediator can be hired to resolve disputes before, and even during, court proceedings. You should seriously consider getting one if you and your spouse cannot agree on the following:
- Property division;
- Spousal maintenance;
- Parental responsibilities (In Illinois, the term ‘custody’ has been replaced with this term), and;
- Breaches of current orders.
A mediator can:
- Ensure both spouses have control over the decisions being made regarding their children;
- Ensure conflicts are resolved amicably, affordably and quickly;
- Intervene to set out arrangements both parties can agree with;
- Reduce stress levels when sensitive matters are being discussed;
- Ensure decisions can be altered, if both parties agree to them;
- Show children there are amicable ways to resolve disputes rather than violent ones. This benefit will provide much-needed stability during this turbulent time;
- Help you set aside the emotional turmoil you are going through to address issues that will affect you and your children for the rest of your life, and;
- Prevent you from making costly decisions.
Unfortunately, most divorcing couples either don’t realize they have this option or decide to ignore it, thinking they can resolve their conflicts on their own. The resulting damage can have negative repercussions – not only for the warring spouses, but also for their children and extended families. A professional mediator can prevent that from happening and ensure your future is not derailed with unresolved conflicts. Here are some answers that can help you make an informed decision about hiring one.
However, before hiring a mediator, you need to consult with a lawyer who can ensure your best interests are not violated in the agreements that are made. An attorney from the Law Office of Fedor Kozlov can identify issues you may not be aware of and craft an agreement that can satisfy you and can stand up in court. We offer legal services in Schaumburg, Illinois, pertaining to family conflict, dispute resolutions and negotiations. Get in touch with us today for a consultation.